If you thought being single sucks, think again. Sometimes meeting a guy you really like but who keeps blowing you off is really a lot worse than being single. I mean sure, you have someone “special” in your life now, but are you as special to him as he is to you? Do you have this nagging feeling that despite everything going great, there’s just something off? Don’t ignore your intuition – your mind must have read signs that you haven’t yet been able to comprehend. And those signs tell you that he’s not really into you.
Excuses Guys Make When Not Interested
He’s always busy
Everybody has a life, a job and commitments they have to look after. Everybody’s busy. True. But can you name one person in your life who is busy 24x7? I don’t think so, especially if it’s a guy in a relationship. If he cannot manage to take out a few hours every week and give them to you, exactly what type of a relationship are you even in? A cyber relationship? The only reason he’s not giving you his time is because he doesn’t believe you are worth his time. Plain and simple.
He travels a lot
It’s the same reasoning as above. More so if these trips happen to occur suspiciously during times when you ask him to hang out at family or other important social events. If he’s traveling for work, then find out if he really is working for who he says he’s working. Plus, if he really is so busy traveling, he should at least show the decency to ask you out on one of his trips. Who foots the bill is a different issue. But at least he should offer you a chance of being with him.
His career is his top priority now
When loosely translated, this means you aren’t even in his list of top 10 priorities. If he likes you, he’ll take time out for you and make you his first priority. If not, then he’ll treat you as nobody and make all kinds of excuses guys make when not interested in a woman.
He’s just out of a “bad” relationship
And more suspiciously, if he was the one in love who was dumped by his ex. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that this excuse is 100% fake. Some men do experience it, but a very large number of men use it as an excuse for having pity sex. Moreover, you feel the need to show him that good girls do exist, which means you’ll go out of your way to please him, with him doing little to no effort. That’s a double bonanza right there for a man.
He says no marriage before 30
You laugh and tell yourself that once he starts loving you, 30 can easily become 25. And you think you get to be the special girl who brings about this change in his life. Well honey, irrespective of whether the “marriage after 30” statement is true or false, you cannot do anything if he doesn’t want to commit. Get that in your head.
He needs space
Literally the stupidest excuses guys make when not interested. It’s sad that the negative stereotyping of women as clingy, time-consuming and money-wasting creatures has solidified in the minds of many men as facts. It’s one of the biggest reasons why men hesitate to commit. So maybe his reason stems out of genuine fear. If so, sit down and talk things out with him. But even after talking with him you see that he’s not going to budge, then dump him.
"I really like you, but...
I’m not sure if I want to be in a serious relationship right now." Now the average woman will justify this statement by telling herself, "If he likes me, commitment is just a matter of time. I’ll just have to be patient."
But the truth is that he’s really telling you he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship with you. Read the subtext. It’s the same as "no marriage before 30" excuse, but with different words. If he likes you but doesn’t want to commit, he should just walk away.
Things are moving too quickly
Even though you’ve been dating for 6 months now. Wow. Really? How stupid does he think you are to fall for that lie? You know you’ve been the best girlfriend ever, so where does the fault lie? I’ll tell you where – in his immature joke of a brain. He’s the one who’s too much of a baby to be a part of a grown up relationship.
He flatly admits missing his ex
Ah. Why is it that guys can’t tell the truth but resort to the worst lies in the world to “spare” a woman’s feelings? How is "I don’t think we’re good together" more hurtful than "Hey, I love being with you so much that it reminds me of my ex"? It’s sad to see the type of excuses guys make when not interested. And even if he is telling the truth, what’s the point of being with someone who clearly has feelings for his ex?
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