What to Talk About on a First Date with a Guy

What’s your guilty pleasure?

Now this could be anything – right from watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians to listening to Nickleback. This question not only allows you to understand him better as a person, but forces him to open up to you, thus making him feel more comfortable in your presence. That is because the more we share something embarrassing about ourselves with someone, the more our emotions reassure us that the person sitting in front of us is worthy of our trust. In fact, all the questions I’m gonna write below will provide a similar effect.

Cats or dogs?

This might seem like a superficial question, but such things to talk about on a first date with a guy serve a twofold purpose. First, you get to know his preference, and second, you get to know the kinda person he is. Several studies have shown that cat people are more sensitive and introverted in nature, while dog people are more friendly and outgoing.

Worst date ever?

If you want to lighten up the mood, then ask him this Q. Then go ahead and share your experience. You’ll both end up laughing and thus, bonding over something as silly as a stupid experience.

How comfortable are you with a woman in charge?

Now this one’s a very important question. If he replies something to the tune of, “I don’t care who is in charge so long as they’re doing a good job”, that man is gold. However, if he says something like, “I’m all for gender equality, but…” and gives any excuse for not working under a woman, be careful!

If you had a time machine, where would you go to?

This one’s a fantastic question if you’re into fantasy, sci fi or even history. Ask him where he’d want to visit (past or future), who he’d like to meet, why he would want to do so, so on and so forth. This question gives you the opportunity to ask him more questions, thus ensuring the continuity of your conversation. And who knows? You might end up finding a passion of everything that’s related to science fiction!

So, how was your day?

A cliché when it comes to things to talk about on a first date with a guy, but it works every time! Discussing your daily activities lays grounds for commonalities, and the more you share in common, the easier it is to bond.

Can you cook?

Again, a very good question because it helps you assess his level of thinking. Basically, any and every answer is acceptable so long as he doesn’t say, “Cooking is a woman’s job” or “I’m waiting for the perfect woman who can cook me my fav meals” Uh, no son. You’re looking for a maid, not a partner.

Is your social circle big or small?

And how often do you hang out with your friends? If you prefer spending more time indoors with your date doing nothing but binge watching shows on Netflix, it would be smart if you knew before hand that he has a large friend circle that he meets up with every other night, right? That would help you understand better whether or not you want to pursue things with him.

The one thing you’re looking forward to?

Could be tomorrow, could be one month later or even 5 years later. There must be something in his life that he has to look forward to, isn’t there? This will also allow you to see what his passions are.

Here are some more things to talk about on a first date with a guy:

• Fav holiday destination, and why?
  

• If you had to learn one language, what would it be?

• Do you like what you’re doing professionally?

• What’s the stupidest thing you’ve ever done?

• What do you like to do when you’re not working?

• If you won a million dollars tomorrow, what would you do with the money?

• Are you interested in keeping a pet?

• What qualities do you look for in an ideal partner?

• How do you like to spend your dates? Inside? Outside? Gourmet restaurants or a picnic at a nearby park?

No serious topics

No, you do not need to discuss the Syrian refugee crisis or how your dear dog died last week and how lonely you’ve been feeling ever since. Nope. A big fat nope. The person is there to get to know you, and not to act as a dumping ground for your problems. Keep the conversations light, fun and casual and you will seldom go wrong.

Caution about politics and/or religion

These two topics are pretty volcanic in nature and I’d suggest that you avoid them at all costs. However, if you’re the kinda person who believes that their partner’s views on religion and/or politics should align with yours, then it would be smart to broach this topic on the first date. These two topics are a BIG no when it comes to things to talk about on a first date with a guy.

Show genuine interest

Look. A conversation is two sided, which means you have to show as much interest in his talk, as he shows in yours. For every question he asks about you, ask him the same question right back. And why not? The idea of a date is to get to know the person in front of you, right? Pay close attention to what he says, and ensure you ask follow-up questions to improve the quality of your conversations.

Keep the cussing to yourself

There are very few people who appreciate hanging out with dates that use “fuck” like it’s a full stop in every sentence that they speak. If, however, you feel that cussing is part of who you are, then you need to be upfront about your habits right from the get go in order to not deceive your date.