You’d think that the marriage of transgender would be so full of drama and spice…. But the truth is quite far from that. Transgenders are normal people like us – the only thing that differentiates us from them is the manner in which they are treated by society. So what exactly does it feel like to be in a transgender marriage?
Transgender Marriage Stories
Jason to Jenna
After 6 years of marriage, my husband Jason popped the question no woman would ever want to hear -- “Sally, I’m a transgender, and I'm just wondering what you’d think if I undergo an operation?” My world crashed all around me. I locked myself in my room for 5 days and didn’t come out. It had Jason and my kids worried, but I was thinking only for myself. On the 6th day, it dawned on me – what would change if it was only Jason’s physical appearance. On the inside, he’d still be the same funny, loving, caring but naughty person that I’d fallen in love with.
So I apologised to him for behaving the way I did, and stood by his side when he became Jenna. I hope our stories can inspire and encourage people who are facing similar dilemmas.
I Lost My Wife
My wife came out to me 3 years ago and I can honestly say that was the worst period of my life. I could not even begin to accept that I would not only share my life but my bed with a man. It was completely unacceptable to me. I remember constantly finding excuses for delaying her operation, but one fine day she confronted me and I was forced to tell her the truth.
Needless to say, she was unhappy with what I thought and filed for divorce the very next week. I still follow her... sorry, him on Facebook now and he seems very happy with a new partner. Not sure how I’m supposed to react to that.
Gay Couple into Straight Couple
Not all transgender marriage stories torture those who are involved that much. I’ve always been a very proud gay guy. I’ve been guilty of doing every stereotypical gay thing that you can imagine, which is why it came as a huge shock to me when my gay partner, Jerry, chose to come out as a transgender female? Gotta be honest – Jay had always been a lot more effeminate than the most effeminate gays in our circles, so everything seemed to fit right into place when he came out to me.
And who the hell am I to judge others on the basis of their sexuality? It did take me a while to come to terms with everything, but this proud gay man stood by his ex gay partner who is now a very pretty 32 year old woman called Janice. I stayed because I can’t imagine my life without her. Simple as that.
Cheating Is What Happens
My husband confessed 5 years ago and even though outwardly I was supportive of his transition, on the inside I was dying because I had 100s of doubts and questions racing in my mind. His surgery could not take place within 3 years because of our autistic son’s high medical bills (he used to be sick all the time) but the operation finally took place in the 4th year. The change was hard, but the sex was the hardest to figure out. Today, we hardly ever have sex and I suspect my “wife” is cheating on me. I don’t blame her. I’m cheating on her myself.
No Idea Where the Path Leads
It’s tough, you know. This is among those transgender marriage stories where we have our good days and our bad. On our best days, we’re best friends reminiscing about the time when things used to be different. On our worst days, we have trouble adjusting our lives because come on – a transgender change is a HUGE deal, especially emotionally for both involved.
Sometimes I find her questioning our marriage and I have to sit down and make her see the light at the end of the tunnel. But the truth is I myself have been having doubts. We’re great as friends – we just suck as a couple. Living with a new trans partner is extremely challenging, let me tell you. I don’t know what we’ll do about it. I’m very afraid to think of the future.
Sweetness Comes After Anger
Kendrick was my best friend in the whole word, the one I thought I knew everything about. We were the type of couple that used to finish each others’ sentences. This is why his coming out story came out as the biggest surprise of my life. I was shocked, angry and hurt. Why the hell didn’t he tell me this before marriage? Why did he have to ruin MY life and what right did he have to do so?
One day I took it all out on him and he listened to me patiently for one hour. After I was done, he stood up, hugged me and told me his side of the story. I listened to it and with every passing minute, I felt my anger fading. I really realized this is still the person I’d fallen in love with. After all the drama, we go now back to the normal life as a couple and as sisters.
Still Try to Make It Work
I was very much in love with my wife – we had been high school sweethearts. But this is one of those transgender marriage stories where things are really different from imagination. I have to be honest that now I’m neither as open minded nor as happy as I thought I would be. Yes I am happy that my wife-now-husband is finally who he was meant to be, but at the same time, I miss the presence of a woman in my life. Things just aren’t the same anymore. Sex, especially is a huge task in itself. There are challenges coming in all aspects of our life, but we are still trying very hard to figure out how to make this new relationship work. I think with love we can finally make it, maybe.