There are some things that should be considered bright-red flags when dating. If you look closely, your relationship may be giving you subtle signs that maybe your picture perfect pairing is not so perfect after all. These red flags that your relationship is not the best match-up are not always as obvious to you as they are to others. Your feelings are intertwined with the butterflies you feel and the thought of being alone may not sound all that appealing either. Stop selling yourself short and if you’re seeing any relationship red flags – you need to re-evaluate whether your relationship is really working or not. Here are 8 signs you should stop ignoring now!
They Don’t Make You Feel Special
If you are going to be in a relationship with someone they should make you feel special. If you aren’t being made to feel that way then it is time to re-evaluate the situation. Why waste time on a relationship that doesn’t make you feel great.
They Can’t Stop Talking About Someone Else
If your significant other can’t stop talking about a co-worker, a “friend”, or goes on and on about someone else they may be guilty of an emotional affair. And what may start off as an emotional affair may not be too far from a physical affair.
They Are Dishonest
Watch for even small warning signs of dishonesty. Do they cheat on tests or lie to get out of situations. Often times these small acts of dishonesty will spill over into your relationship too. You may find all of sudden they start to lie about where they have been or who they have been with. Trust is a big issue in a relationship and once it is gone it is tough to get back.
They Are Clingy
A relationship works best when two people have their own hobbies and interest apart from the ones that they share as a couple. If your partner clings to you all the time it may be time to question why they have such a strong attachment. Do they really enjoy spending time with you or do they treat you like you are on probation having to check in all the time. No relationship should alter your lifestyle or take away what is important to you.
They Have Explosive Anger
Watch out for someone who gets angry over nothing. It can be very telling what kind of person they are if you see them deal with a stressful situation. Do they swear, throw things, hit or yell in relatively minor situation such as dealing with lost luggage or missing a flight. If so you should be asking yourself if you want to be spending any more time with a person with those types of coping skills.
They Constantly Tease
Teasing can be very dangerous. At times it can be innocent and fun but if taken too far teasing is like bullying. It can be demeaning towards the other person and devalue them. If you get angry in response you will likely be targeted as not having a sense of humor. Pay attention to these behavioral signs as it may be a warning sign as to the type of person they are.
They Are Secretive
If your significant other is suddenly a lot more secretive it should be a warning sign that something is up. Taking phone calls in another room, changing the computer screen when you walk in are all clues that your partner is hiding something.
Abuse in Any Way
Of course this seems like an obvious one but a lot of times people believe that someone will change or it will be the last time. It won’t be and it isn’t worth trying. If you are in a relationship with physical or emotional violence end it now. They will never change and there is no point in trying to make them.