Finding the partner of your dreams is no walk in the park. Technology has made dating easier giving you access to hundreds of potential matches at the click of a mouse, but it has never been harder to pick the right person for you. You might have to date a few frogs before you land on Prince Charming. Casual dating or dating multiple people at the same time is the only way out. It allows you to have fun and meet people while hoping that something blossoms into a more meaningful relationship. It is a great way to explore what is out there before settling down.

Why Should You Date Multiple People?


Make You Feel Empowered

Dating only one person can sometimes make you feel helpless and trapped. You are at the mercy of your significant other in whom you’re emotionally invested. Dating several people at the same time gives you a sense of control and makes you less afraid of rejection. In this case, a person leaving won’t affect you as much as if the relationship was exclusive.


It’s Good to Compare

Before you make a decision about who you’re finally going to settle down with, it’s important to play the field and see what’s out there. It will be easier for you to determine which kind of qualities you want in a partner and it can also teach you how to spot jerks from a mile away.


You Have Alternatives

Having all your eggs in one basket can set you up for failure in the dating world. If you fall out with your current girlfriend or boyfriend, you have to start over from scratch, which can be exhausting. However, by dating multiple people, you always have someone to fall back to.


You Have More Freedom

There’s no better feeling than that of being independent. You do what you want and when you want. You don’t have to be down and out just because someone turned out to be a douchebag. Dating several people puts you in control and helps you stave off loneliness and boredom whenever a relationship doesn’t pan out.


You’ll Be More Open-Minded

Since you’re not beholden to a one person, you will be more open to dating people you would otherwise not date. This will broaden your horizons and enable you to see the world from different perspectives. You’ll also get the opportunity to date many interesting people in short span of time.


There Are a Lot Sex

By dating many people, you have the opportunity to have as much sex as you want without being overcome by feelings like guilt or embarrassment. You get to explore your sexuality with different people. Some people like it rough, others slow and others kinky. You’ll understand your body better and have a more fulfilling sex life.


Boredom Is Out of Question

If you crave companionship and social interaction, then dating multiple people is the best way to go. You will always have several people to hang out with. You no longer have to spend Friday nights alone just because your significant other is busy or out of town. You can be a social butterfly if you want.

How to Date Multiple People at the Same Time


Assume Everyone’s Doing It

To get rid of the hang-ups associated with dating, it is safe to assume that everyone is dating more than one person at the same time. When you meet someone new, you don’t want your date to peg all hopes on that one coffee date. If the pressure to win each other over is off the table, the two of you can interact like human beings, relaxed and freely.


Don’t Be Too Candid

Don’t be too candid about your relationships because you will make it weird. If someone tries to set up a date with you and you’re going on another just tell them you’re busy. You could also tell them you’re meeting up with a friend. People deserve to feel they have your undivided attention, so you need to know when the time hasn't come, you have to hide or avoid talking about certain aspects of your life. 


Offer Some Honesty

It’s good to be honest with the people you’re dating. Let them know that you’re seeing other people. You don’t have to get into the details, but set up appropriate expectations. Be open with all the people you’re dating, but don’t be disrespectful. Bragging about the number of people you’re dating or how many people you’ve slept with is off the table.


Keep It Classy

If you’re dating more than one person, you are bound to let people down a lot of times. Just remember to be classy about it. If you’ve gone on holiday with one of the people you’re dating, don’t switch off your phone or ignore the calls of other people in your life. It’s better to tell them beforehand if you’ll be away for some time and won’t be able to pick their calls. People handle disappointment better than bad treatment.


Don't Have Sex with Everyone

If you are dating multiple people, you may tend to have sex with all of them. This can bring about all sorts of complications and hurt. You should respect yourself and the people you’re dating. So try to keep sex off the table until you’ve settled on those you like best.


Don’t Set Up Multiple Dates on the Same Day

Setting up multiple dates on a single day not only might make you feel like a badass, but also might set you up for failure. Give each date sufficient time so you can focus on each person better. It will also give you ample time to prepare for each date.


Avoid Dating People in the Same Social Circles

You should try to keep things tidy and uncomplicated. Dating people who know each other or who meet frequently can be a problem. You don’t want to deal with awkward run-ins and confrontations, right? You should also avoid hanging out at the same restaurants, coffee shops, or bars with your dates. This is just a recipe for disaster.


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