Women are known to be vocal with their emotions, but the case is very much different when it comes to men. It is difficult to decipher what a man feels or what he is thinking. Plus, men are born to have difficulties in expressing themselves properly. Even if women are gifted with intuitions, it is still hard for them to analyze men’s emotions and way of thinking. The best thing to do is to check their body languages because this is the easiest way to access their real intentions.

He Avoids Looking at Me--Does He Like Me or Not?

Even if a man does not say anything, his eyes will reveal almost everything. Look at his eyes and pay close attention to what his eyes are telling you.

If a man tries to look at you directly and tries to maintain eye contact, then this means that he is interested in you. But some men, even if they love you, will not look at you directly and some even choose to look at the floor when they are talking to you. This is because they are shy but still attracted by you. So if a guy avoids looking at you, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you; instead, it may even mean he really likes you but is too shy to look at you or is only intimidated by you. Guys have so many tactics in order not to give you any clue about their feelings for you. Here are two ways in which his eyes reveal those hidden feelings:

  • If you notice a guy looking at you and then immediately looking away when you catch him staring at you, he might have a crush on you. It may also be the other way around but no matter who looks at whom first, the guy will avoid your gaze immediately to hide his real feelings.

  • Another way to tell that a guy likes you is when he looks at you from afar with a poker face but you will notice that his pupils are dilated and the edges of his eyes are softened. If you notice this in a guy, it’s a sure thing that he is interested in you.

Other Subtle Signs Indicating He’s Interested in You


He moves closer to you

It is human nature to have the desire to be close to someone you are interested in. So even if he avoids looking at you, you should pay close attention to his actions. If he tries to lean towards you or if his arms are subtly rubbing yours while you are walking, it means he wants to be near you or to be with you.


He becomes nervous when you’re around

When a guy likes a girl, he always wants to put his best foot forward and this really makes him nervous. Another sign "he avoids looking at me but does like me" is that he is nervous whenever you two are together and he will fidget, get sweaty palms, avoid contact, stammer, etc.


He treats you nicely

There is nothing unusual in doing good things for others but if he does things for you that will require him to put lots of efforts, chances are he is interested in you. For example, he offers you his coat because you’re cold or he volunteers to drive you home even if you can catch the bus. Acknowledge what he is doing for you so that he knows that you appreciate what he does for you.


He imitates your actions

Humans subconsciously imitate or mirror the action of those they like. For example, he takes a sip of his tea after you take a sip of yours or if he crosses his legs after you crossing yours. So make sure you pay close attention.


He touches you

A sure sign that a guy is interested in you or trying to flirt with you is when he touches you. If you’ve known each other for a long time, it is not surprising that he will touch you a lot. It means that he is comfortable with you. Other examples are that he touches you lightly at your back to show you the way or that he “accidentally” touches your hand when trying to give you something.


He listens to you

When a man is interested in you, he will want to know every single detail about you. If a man remembers all details you told him months ago, it only means that you are special to him. For example, you told him 6 months ago that you really wanted to go to your favorite band’s concert, and then he suddenly shows up with tickets of that concert so that the two of you can go. In this case, even if you have doubts like "he avoids looking at me", you should know that he does like you.


He includes you in his plans

When a man includes you in his future plans, there is no doubt he is totally attracted by you. For example, he talks about wanting to have a grand vacation somewhere in the Caribbean and says he wants to take you there.


He uses “we” instead of “me”

This is closely related to the previous tip. When he uses “we”, it means he acknowledges your presence in his life. It means he wants to do things and share things with you. When he constantly includes you in his activities and decisions, you might be really special to this guy.


He teases you in a cute manner

A guy who is attracted by you will oftentimes tease you or be playful around you. Not only because he loves getting your attention but maybe because he loves to see how you react whenever he tries to sing your favorite song with a Donald duck sound.


He replies to you quickly

If a guy is truly interested in you, he will always find time to answer your calls and texts immediately. This is one important tip for your “he avoids looking at me but he loves me” dilemma. It only takes a few seconds to reply to a message, so if a guy does not answer you back, you know where you stand in his life.


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