Today, workplaces have become some of the most common places where people initiate romantic relationships. And why not? Members of both genders sit together in a confined place for 9 straight hours; I mean, there’s bound to be a lot of interactions, right? And the more you interact with someone, the more you get to like or dislike him or her. Practically too, dating someone from the office makes sense, seeing how tired most people are after office hours to go out and socialize with the opposite sex.

How to Ask Out a Co-worker

This isn’t as difficult as it seems. Just keep in mind the following points and you’re good to go.

Do your homework

There are a lot of things you have to know before you can go on and ask your co-workers out. For example:

  • Are they single? In a relationship? Out of a relationship? Their relationship status is important to know, which will help you roughly understand whether or not they’re interested in dating.

  • Does your office allow relationships among colleagues? If not, then you might have to give up on your crush, or find a new job. Whatever floats your boat.

  • Understand how your co-worker feels about you. Do they smile and talk with you when they see you or do they do their best to avoid you? Because if they’re not into you, there’s no point in asking them out.


Ask that co-worker out in person

Yes, of course it’s easier to ask someone out via text or email, but that’s the thing – it’s too easy, not to mention impersonal. It shows that you’re not willing to put in even a little bit of effort to ask them out. I mean, exactly how long does it even take to compose a text? It also shows that you’re nervous or lack confidence, which is a turn off for most people. How to ask out a co-worker? Simple – ask them face to face with sincere and confidence.


Look your best

So now that you know everything works in your favor, it’s time for phase two. Dress your sharpest, put on a little (not a lot) of good cologne, comb your hair, shave your face/apply a little makeup, and eat a couple of breath mints. Look in the mirror and see how you look. Also check that there isn’t something stuck in between your teeth. When you look great, people will be attracted by you, your crush at work included.


Approach at neutral grounds

Ask them out at a place he or she is comfortable in, like a cafeteria, the water machine or the copy machine room. In such places, your co-worker's mind is automatically at ease. Also make sure that when you do approach your co-worker, it’s when he or she is alone and not surrounded by a group of people. Other people watching you ask him or her out could make you or your co-worker feel uncomfortable or make your co-worker react in a manner he or she normally wouldn’t. So avoid crowds.


Ask at an appropriate time

There’s no point in asking your co-worker out if he or she is rushing to the boss’ office, on a call with a client, or simply busy with a deadline. The likelihood of being turned down during such times is high. Ask your co-worker when he or she is maybe texting a friend, looking at the laptop, laughing at something or during the lunch break.


Find grounds of mutual interest

If you want to know how to ask out a co-worker successfully, you should know that having mutual interests makes conversation a lot easier. Keep an eye out for the type of music they listen, the videos they watch on their laptop when in office, their favorite brand to wear, their favorite perfume, whether they have any pets, or whether they volunteer at a local shelter. Common grounds make it much easier to break the ice. However, if that is not possible, don’t worry because....


You share one thing with them

Fortunately for you, you already have a common subject – your office and its people. Say hi, introduce yourself and then ask them on which floor they work. Crack a joke or say something like, "So nice to finally meet you." Discuss that weird client who visited the office one time, or how Barney from Marketing is totally gay. Whatever it is, keep the talks light and talk to your co-worker as much as you can. The more you talk, the more you’ll know about them. Intimate details can wait because right now, your aim is to break the ice.


Take the final step

Now that the ice is broken, talk to your co-workers ever so often. Again, keep the talks light and casual. Compliment them, their work or outfit, make small talk, or ask for their opinion on something. Go like this for a few weeks (I’d say a month to be safe). And when they are finally comfortable in your presence, simply ask whether they would want to hang out for a cup of coffee after work. Ease into the date – don’t ask immediately to go to dinner at a fancy place.

And that’s it! You’re done. This is how to ask out a co-worker. Granted, it focuses more on what you should do before or during asking your co-worker out, but know that this is the most important step in developing something serious between you two. So good luck.


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