A lot of us see the breakup coming, but a lot of us don’t. And the ones who are blindsided by it are worst hit. They didn’t expect things to end, and they thought everything was alright and it was just another fight they had. Little did they know that their partner had been thinking about dumping them for quite some time... without giving them any hint whatsoever. When this realization dawns on them, the biggest emotion they feel is betrayal. And once a person’s been dumped, they have only 2 things in their mind – to get back with their ex or to get over being dumped. Here we tell you how to move on.
How to Get Over Being Dumped by Others
Begin by accepting that the relationship has ended. It’s the toughest step, yes, and it might take you longer than you expect, but you cannot get out if in the back of your mind, you’re still dreaming about getting together with your ex.
Give yourself time to grieve
The process of healing is slow and arduous. Worse, there are no shortcuts for it. You just HAVE to deal with it. Take as much time as you need – you need to mourn. Play sad music, sing, cry, talk to your friends – do whatever it takes to feel okay again. Of course, you should not take this as an excuse to become an alcoholic or a drug addict. That is unacceptable under all conditions.
Don’t call for answers
If he didn’t think you were important enough to him to at least give you a reason as to why he was breaking up, then screw him. He’s not gonna give you any reason after the breakup, simply because you’re not worth the trouble to him anymore. Also, do you really think his reasons, whatever they may be, will be enough for you? Won’t you go out of your way to convince him that he made a bad decision and should take you back?
Maintain your dignity
Absolutely NEVER beg her to take you back. Even if she does (which almost never happens), she’ll dump you in a heartbeat even if you make the smallest wrong move (in her opinion). No contact whatsoever is one of the best ways to how to get over being dumped by others.
Don’t be friends him
It almost never works out.
Delete, delete, delete
Get her out of your life. Phone, social media, laptops, desktops, memory cards, cameras – wherever you have stored her photos and videos, as well as those of the two of you together, delete them all. If you think you can’t do this on your own, ask a friend to sit by your side as moral support.
You’re done with the grieving process. Now, it’s time to open those shades, listen to happy music and get the hell out of your house. A change of scenery does wonders for you. Plus, how exactly is feeling sorry for yourself for extended long time going to help you over getting dumped? Hang out with friends, go watch movies, get tickets to concerts – do everything that you wanted to but never had the time or energy to do!
Take a vacation
And why not? It’s one of the most exhilarating ways of how to get over being dumped by others. If none of your friends are willing to go with you, why don’t you just pack your bags and go alone? Travelling to a new place with nobody but yourself can, in a lot of cases, turn out to be a self discovery process. Even if it isn’t, you get to go through new surroundings, explore the culture and cuisine. And when you return home, you will realize how small your breakup is, in the grander scheme of things.
Don’t succumb to a rebound relationship
Especially if you’re not the type of person who used to have sex with every Tom, Dick and Harry before getting into a relationship. This is because you might feel good during sex, but you’re really gonna feel awful when you reach home. You’re going to judge yourself and be terribly harsh on yourself, and you really don’t want any negative energy around yourselves, do you?
Also, on a more pragmatic note, what exactly do you do when the other person falls for you and finds out that you’re emotionally unavailable? Should have told that to that person from the get go, shouldn’t you?
Expand your social circle
If you feel your new set of friends suck and are being unsupportive, or if you just want exposure to newer things in life, go ahead and make new friends. Yes, it’s a lot tougher than it sounds, but we aren’t talking about making lifelong friends. No. We mean the type of friends you can hang out with and have a lot of fun with. And who knows, one of these "friends" might turn out to be your Mr Right. That’s a double whammy right there!
Until and unless you’re made out of stone, it’s impossible to even think of how to get over being dumped by others without having support by your side. Friends and family are always there for you. But if you fear being judged or being viewed as too weak due to the breakup, then you can always turn to several forums and chat groups on the internet that is full of people who have been through what you are experiencing and are willing to help you out.