You have a crush on a guy and while this should be a happy and exciting thing, you are flooded with thoughts of whether or not he likes you back. You are desperate for signs he likes you too, but you think you keep getting mixed signals from him. Sometimes, he really cares about you, but at other times he just wants to stay away from you. Here we will decode those mixed signals and help you find out when to take a leap and when to just let go.
What Do Those Mixed Signals From a Guy Mean?
He’s seeking attention
This guy is throwing mixed signals your way and all the drama may just be because he wants attention. He could be the type of guy who is just lonely, so he thrives on the attention from women. So being hot and cold is how he entertains himself, which also means his heart is not on you.
He’s holding out for the one
Let’s be honest, if he’s messing with your feelings, it could be because he is trying to keep you as a backup. Perhaps he’s killing time while waiting for an ex or he may be dating other girls at the same time, but either way, it’s not good for you to wait to find out.
Some people really are just full of drama and a bit too complicated. His personality or character could just be complex. He could also just be trying to throw you off course. No matter what the case is here, it’s not right and fair for you if you are seriously looking for love.
He's just dipping one toe in the pond
If you’re trying to open up but he's doing just the opposite, then it could be that he’s just testing the waters. But, on the other hand, mixed signals from a guy can also come from shyness; he may be terrified to take the leap so he just dances around his real feelings. Yet remember this, real men dive in.
It's too soon for him
You can’t quite make out why he flirts and then backs off. That could just be because he is not really looking for a serious relationship right now. While he likes you, he’s not ready to fully commit, but selfishly, he also doesn’t want to give you up. That’s not fair for you if you are looking for a steady relationship.
He’s after sex
Guys may send confusing signals because they don’t really want a full on relationship. They just want all the fun – bedroom benefits. He’s clearly not looking for an emotional connection if this is the case. He’s likely just testing your limits to see how far you will go casually with him. Don’t fall for it; there is no future.
He's just a nice guy
You may think he treats you specially and way too nice, but it could be a normal thing for him as he is simply a nice guy and treats everyone around kindly. Just because he acts like a gentleman in front of you doesn’t mean he is interested romantically in you. There are men out there who are polite to a lot of people. So you should make sure you are reading the vibes right before falling head over heels in love.
He wants a cool guy image
Some men really feel the need to puff out their chests on your watch. Usually, these guys act uninterested in you when their friends are around or in public. Suddenly, when you are alone, he’s all over you. Don’t let it confuse you; he’s just not confident enough in his feelings to ditch the macho desire.
How to Deal With Mixed Signals From a Guy
Go along with the ride
One relaxed option is to just enjoy the game. Flirt when he’s feeling flirty with you and do your own things when he pulls away. Don’t let him control your feelings and just have fun with it.
Take control of the game
Okay, you have played by his rules and it’s not working, so it may be time to take control. Try something different. If he flirts, give him a bit of a challenge by ignoring him. Don’t let him think you are so easily swayed by his indecision. Also, it will help you understand if he’s really into you because if he is, he’ll pursue you.
Try to keep your thoughts to yourself until you better understand his feelings. In the beginning, he may not even like you, and if you burst out and confront him, it can hurt the potential for a relationship.
Try not to make assumptions
Sometimes it’s best to take mixed signals from a guy with a grain of salt. There could be a lot of things going on, but for your own sanity, don’t over complicate it with your own assumptions. Take a step back to make sure you are reading it all right.
Don’t jump into the relationship
When you’re handling his games, don’t let yourself fall for him too fast. After all, you don’t want to fall in love with someone who doesn’t deserve you. Since he clearly isn’t ready, try to keep things light and fun until they become clearer.
Make use of your sexual attraction
The games and flirty fun are often signs of someone trying to ignite sexual advances. Learn how far he wants to go and then use it to your advantage. If you want to keep the interest going without committing fully, try to attract or even seduce him physically.
Be prepared for the outcome
Ultimately, getting involved with guys sending you mixed signals can mean there is an unknown outcome, so if you decide to stick it out, be ready to handle whatever happens in the future. You may find out he is really a jerk, you may even end up not liking him as much as you thought, or he could all of sudden be ready for love. No matter what, you should make sure you are fine with all kinds of results.
Usually, if you are getting mixed signals from a guy and you are fed up, you may want to confront them. However, this usually doesn’t end well. If you do have the courage to take this step, then do it once and for all. If he just denies everything, just walk away because ultimately he doesn’t deserve what you are ready to offer.