It seems like people these days are having a lot more anal sex than they used to. Or is it just a case of comfort? Anal sex has far less taboo in recent years, and people are becoming more and more comfortable with talking about it. The general conversation should hopefully have people exploring the pros and cons of anal sex before trying it. There are ways to enjoy anal sex safely, and reap all of the pleasurable benefits. 

Pros and Cons of Having Anal Sex


  • There’s No Reason Not To

    Medically speaking, when the pros and cons of anal sex are considered, there really isn’t any reason to not enjoy a little butt play if you like it. Just practice safe sex and always change the condom before vaginal sex after anal sex.

  • It’s Safe

    It’s super important to practice safe sex when having anal sex. Employ the use of lube, since the anus is much tighter than the vagina so as to reduce the amount of microscopic tears in the anus. 

  • It Feels so Good

    Most women have a dense group of nerves around their anus, which makes it super sensitive to touch. Before considering anal sex, try a little foreplay with your finger when you’re feeling hot and see how it makes you feel.


There are higher risks of infections, which mostly include:

  • HPV, or the human papilloma virus, is an infection that can lead to cancer. Cancer of the anus is more common in people who have anal sex with several partners. Your best bet is to stick with just one partner and always use a condom.

  • E. coli is also present in the anus, so be wary of urinary tract infections and infections of the bowels that can be brought on by anal sex.

  • Anal sex also puts you at a higher risk for other infections and sexually transmitted diseases as well. The most effective method of infection prevention is safe sex. Never forego your condoms!

How to Have Safe and Pleasurable Anal Sex


Make Sure You’re Clean

  • It’s important to have regular bowel movements in general, especially before engaging in butt play. A diet high in fiber will help you keep things moving along well. Your partner deserves a clean environment. 

  • Although accidents do happen, it’s possible to avoid them. Showering before having sex is always a kind gesture towards your partner! Besides, it’ll give you a confidence boost as well, knowing that you’re fresh and ready.


Don’t Skimp on the Lube

The anus is different than the vagina, and it does not lubricate itself. Using lube is an important part of anal sex, and the more you use, the better it will feel. There are both silicone-based and water-based lubes. As there are pros and cons of anal sex, there are also strengths and drawbacks of these two lubes. Silicone lubes generally last longer than water lubes, as the skin does not absorb silicone; however, it’s unsafe to use silicone with condoms or toys.


Get Hot

No one goes from zero to hero in the bedroom without a little warming up. Both lovers need time and stimulation to relax and get the juices flowing. Fingering the anus is a good way to warm up for anal sex, and stimulating the nerves in the butt feels good and will make you hot. You can also try using a butt plug to get used to something sizeable up there before penetration and thrusting.


Use Protection

Although you won’t become pregnant from having anal sex, it’s important to use a condom anyway since the risk of infection with anal sex is higher than vaginal sex. And there are other benefits of wrapping it up for anal sex! A condom provides a smooth glide in and out and will prevent a hurried climax, since the anus is much tighter than the vagina. Cleaning up after sex is also much easier when you’ve used a condom. Like what has been said before, do change condom when switch from anal sex to vaginal sex. Besides, dental dams are needed for mouth to butt play to lower your risk of infection.


Choose Your Position

While there are an infinite number of positions to choose from, when having anal sex or trying anal sex for the first time, you must go with what is comfortable. Everything will go smoothly if you are comfortable and relaxed. If you are tense, unrelaxed or uncomfortable, you could have a painful experience that may turn you off of anal sex forever.


Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Although there are pros and cons of anal sex, you can enjoy safe and great sex by controlling your pace. It’s important to take it slowly with anal sex. The human body is designed to expel foreign objects from places like the anus, so it’s a natural reaction to tighten up. Approach the butt slowly, and maintain intimate stimulation of other erogenous zones to fully relax. Once full penetration is achieved, you can both enjoy a sexy session of butt sex.


Be Clear with Your Lover

The key to happy, successful and sexy relationships is communication. It’s okay to tell your lover you want more if you actually do. Try some sexy, dirty talk and see how it turns your lover on. And conversely, it is also okay to tell your partner to slow down, take it easy, or pull out altogether. Listen to one another’s needs and you’ll both have a pleasurable and memorable experience together.


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