Oh, no! The girl who irritates you to no end has just entered the room. You just can’t understand why she is so friendly to you and your man when the two of you hardly know her. Your instincts tell you something is wrong, but you just can’t pinpoint the reason why. Then it hits you. Maybe she is interested in him, not you. Her eyes tend to sparkle a little when he speaks directly to her and she hangs on to every word like they are dripping with gold. Maybe she is a nice person and you are just overreacting. Or maybe you are right on target and the girl is up to no good. To figure out why your radar is going off, look for these alarming signs.
12 Signs a Woman Is Flirting with Your Husband
She’s Always Giving Him Compliments
Everyone wants to hear how great they are and your man is no exception. When she compliments him every time she gets a chance, she will inflate his ego and make him feel special. She may even make him feel sexually desirable and that is when things can get a little touchy. Will he take the compliment and just give himself a pat on the back that he’s still attractive? Or will he take the bait and give in to temptation? If your husband is insecure, make sure you step in and let him know you still appreciate him. Otherwise, he may stray to the woman giving him all the attention he needs.
She Complains About Her Love Interests
Whenever she is dating someone, problems seem to pop up about the guy. It gets frustrating for you because every time it happens, she runs to your husband for advice on how to handle the situation. She treats him as her trusted friend that she can share anything with and she does. She is playing with his sympathetic side, wanting him to feel sorry for her and that he is the only person who can make her feel better. He wants to save the damsel in distress, a fantasy most man have, and she is willing to make it come true.
She Texts or Calls Him Late at Night
Unless there is a fire or someone died, there is no legitimate reason for another woman to call your man late at night or in the early morning hours. The same applies for text messages. This is one of the most evident signs a woman is flirting with your husband. If your husband tells you about the calls and texts, then you need to ask him to remind her he is a taken man and it needs to stop. However, if you discover the inappropriate communication on your own, he may be encouraging it. If this is the case, you need to tell him it needs to cease immediately or he can pack his bags. If you don’t nip it in the rear right away, it can easily escalate into secret escapades.
She Always Looks Her Best Around Him
It seems as though every time you and your husband show up somewhere, she is there looking her best. Her makeup is flawless, her hair perfectly smooth and shiny, and her outfit hugs all the right curves. She is attracted to your man and she wants him to feel the same, so she makes sure she looks great when he is around. She will make sure he sees her. She might ask him to help her reach something or to direct her to the ladies’ room. Once she catches his gaze, she will do all she can to keep his eyes on her.
She Wants Him to Be Jealous
Sometimes when a woman is interested in a man, she will bring around other men to make him jealous. She will go out of her way to make your husband notice her and her handsome companion. She will laugh loudly at her date’s jokes or will kiss him provocatively, hoping your man wishes it was him in her company instead. As an outside observer, you will be able to tell if she is pulling this tactic. You will see she is more intense on making sure your husband is paying attention to her than she is at paying attention to her date.
She Wants to Be Friends with Him, But Not So Much You
One of the sure signs a woman is flirting with your husband is she wants to be friends with him, but not you. It is true, there is a lot of men and women who have friends of the opposite sex. However, typically these are acquaintances made before you met or from childhood or college. A new friendship with a woman can be a sign of trouble on the horizon if she only wants to be friends with him and really has no interest in hanging out with you in tow. It’s even worse if she acts as if you don’t exist when you accompany them or if you run into each other without your husband around. If a woman only wants to be a friend to one of your twosome and it’s not you, it time to cut her off.
Your Instincts Are Telling You She Is into Him
Maybe you can’t pinpoint exactly why you are worried, but your gut is yelling at you to be wary of that woman. Your instincts are sending out red flags that she is interested in your husband, even though your mind might be telling you you’re overreacting. If it is really bothering you, talk to your man about it. If need be, let her know how you feel as well. While unlikely, she may not have known she was acting inappropriately or sending out the wrong signals. More likely, she will realize she has been made and will stop her behavior, especially if it is not being reciprocated.
She and He Are Close Social Media “Friends”
A lot of men and women are friends on social media, but when she is paying extra attention to his posts and photos, it is one of the signs a woman is flirting with your husband. Part of the reason people post information and photos on social media is so that others know what they are up to and to boast about accomplishments. If she is your husband’s number one fan, you may need to pull in the reigns, especially if their communication on social media is becoming flirtatious and is interfering with family or bed time. Keep this woman out of your house, even if she isn’t physically there.
She Is Too Touchy-Feely
Some people are more expressive and tend to touch a person’s arm when joking around, but when it becomes too excessive, it can mean something totally different. If a woman takes every opportunity to touch your man, she is probably into him. Perhaps she sits too close, making sure her knee is rubbing against his leg. Maybe she is always finding an excuse to slide between him and someone else in a cramped corridor, pushing her body against his as she passes. When he says anything remotely amusing she laughs too loud and grabs his arm. When she interrupts a conversation, she touches his shoulder to say excuse me. If one of this these were to happen once, it’s probably nothing to worry about. If it happens all the time, she is sending signals to your man that she is interested in him.
She Tries to Be Like You
You are beginning to suspect a woman might be interested in your man and now she is wearing and doing the same things that you are. You started taking a cooking class and guess who shows up at the next class. Your signature weekend attire is skinny jeans and a white button-down shirt with a ball cap and next time you run into her on a Saturday, she is practically wearing the same thing. When you and she are engaged in the same conversation with your husband and others, she is always outdoing you. You were prom queen, she was Miss Teen USA. She is trying to show your husband she can offer him the same goods as you, but only better.
She Is Always There for Him
Couples fight. This is nothing new. You and your husband have had your fair share of disagreements. Before she came along, he would go for a drive to cool off or call one of his man buddies to vent. Now she is the first person he calls. One of the warning signs a woman is flirting with your husband is she is always there for him, no matter the circumstance, time of day, day of the week, no matter what. She agrees with everything says, takes his side on every argument. Why? She wants him to get mad enough to leave you and she is waiting for him with open arms. Even if he doesn’t have a romantic interest in her, heated emotions can take over.
He Down Plays Their Friendship
Your man isn’t stupid and over time will realize this woman is interested in him. However, he enjoys their friendship and doesn’t want to give it up. At the same time, he doesn’t want you to worry that she is trying to steal you away. Whenever you inquire about her or she is mentioned in a conversation, he starts acting uncomfortable or avoids the topic. Even if their friendship is platonic in his eyes, by him down playing their relationship, he is giving her the ok to flirt with him. You need to bring this to a halt immediately, reminding him he is your man and if he wants to keep it that way he needs to end the friendship.