Meeting and hanging out with someone new and exciting is always fun. The guy’s great, the sex is great and things couldn’t be better. But here’s the thing – any two individuals, when starting a new relationship, will always have different goals or expectations in mind when it comes to their relationship. And until and unless the two of you are mature enough to sit down and talk these issues out, they will eventually come and bit you in the ass.
Signs You're Just a Hookup
He compliments you a lot, but…
All of his compliments are superficial. They almost always center on how you look. I mean yes, complimenting you on your looks or appearance every once in a while is quite normal. But 100% of the time? That only goes to show he doesn’t see anything in you beyond your appearance. Remember – if he really likes you, he will like everything about you, both inside and out.
Conversations often take a sexual turn
When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural that conversations take a steamy turn, especially when your relationship is new. But if you’re doing something as mundane as asking him how his day at the office went and he always shifts the conversation in the opposite direction i.e. sex, then be careful.
He doesn’t show interest in your life
When a guy likes you, it’s only natural for him to get to know you as much as he can, because he has been thinking of building a steady relationship with you. The guy who never bothers getting to know what’s happening in your life personally, professionally or otherwise is not the right one for you. So keep an eye out for such signs you're just a hookup.
You guys barely go out on dates
When I say dates, I do mean the traditional types where you go to watch movies, have dinner or coffee or even spend a fun day at an amusement park. You two seldom have these dates, if any at all. Netflix and chill is pretty much all that you two do.
Your dates always end up in sex
Now these could be at your place or his, but they can also be at the nearest rundown hotel that you two can find. Either way, it’s all about sex. Everything else is secondary. And when he does end up staying at your place for the night…
He leaves before you wake up
Girl, this is a massive red flag. That’s because when a guy is only interesting in using your body and when he gets what he wanted, he leaves. As simple as that. He has no reason to spend the morning with you, cuddling, whispering sweet nothings in your ear and having breakfast together. Ignore his excuses because that’s exactly what they are – excuses.
You don’t know much about him
And he keeps it that way. This is one of the clearest signs you're just a hookup. You don’t know where he works, who his friends are, what he likes or dislikes, where he hangs out when he’s bored, what his fav TV shows are – nothing. Most conversations that you have are just on mundane, meaningless or superficial topics. And then they end up in sexual conversations, which then end up in sex.
You have sex, even when you don’t want to
This could be because of various reasons, like:
He’s such a smooth talker that you almost always give in to his wishes.
You don’t want to disappoint him.
You think by refusing sex, he will leave you.
He pressurizes you into having sex.
Whatever the reason is, if you’re not having sex willfully and happily, then he’s not the type of guy you should be hanging out with.
He constantly asks for your naked pictures
Yes it’s true that in the age of technology, the emotional and sexual gaps in a relationship aren’t as huge as they were a few decades ago. Sure, sending him nudes every once in a while to keep the relationship spicy is okay. But first off, a man who respects you will absolutely never ask you for your nudes, much less pressurizing you for them. Second, how sure are you that when you guys breakup, he won’t leak your photos elsewhere? Better safe than sorry!
He doesn’t bother keeping you sexually satisfied
This is one of those signs you're just a hookup that women often mistake for the guy being generally clueless or simply selfish. The truth is – he doesn’t care enough about you to keep you sexually satisfied. His main focus is himself, his wants, his needs and his desires. Everything else takes a backseat. You must have noticed that he’s a selfish lover. There’s almost no foreplay, no sexy whispering, no cuddling back after orgasming – no nothing.
You seldom know his whereabouts
When a guy likes you, he would generally keep you updated of his plans, his schedule or his whereabouts so that you don’t have to worry about him in case of long absences of communication between the two of you. But if he’s deliberately vague about his whereabouts or immediately changes the topic when you ask him something he doesn’t wanna tell you, then you don’t mean much to him.