Breaking up with someone you love is no walk in park. The minute it happens, you seem to be caught up in a timeless trance. It often seems as though time has frozen and you can’t seem to make head or tail of your life. However, you eventually will snap out of it and move on with your life. This is when it happens – your ex reapers. They might send a text, write an email or send a gift. This sets many people off and gets them wondering what the intentions of their exes are. 

So, Why Do Exes Always Come Back?


They Want to Move On Before You

Your exes could just be snooping to find out whether you have moved on. They probably can’t stand the thought of you having moved on without him or her. Normally, such persons do not care about you. They just can’t stand the thought of someone else coming into your life and picking up the pieces that they shattered. You ex might also want to use you as a backup plan in case his or her love life doesn’t work out.


They Know You’ll Take Them Back

They probably know that you will take them back despite what they did to you. They have messed up before and know that you’ll give them another chance since you always forgive them. The problem with this kind of setup is that you lose value in their eyes every time you take them back. If someone treats you badly more than once, do not take them back.


They Feel Guilty

If your once significant other mistreated you in any way, they might be feeling guilty about it and want to make themselves feel better. They want you to validate that they are not as horrible as they feel they are. If you entertain their overtures, you will only help clear their conscience about what they did. After they have achieved their mission, they will disappear again.


They Have Regrets

Your ex probably regrets breaking up with you. They have taken time to think about what happened and they now realize they lost something good. While you might be tempted to take them back, it is often best to leave that door closed. Allow them to learn their lesson and make better choices in the future.


They Are Jealous

Why do exes always come back? If you have moved on with someone else and your ex shown up, do not even entertain the thought of taking them back. They are only jealous that you’ve moved on without them. They might want to make sure you break up with your new catch. Make it clear to them that you won’t be entertaining their overtures and they should keep their distance.


They Have Fears

People usually are afraid of starting over after a relationship has broken down. After parting ways with your exes, they might try to get back with you because they’re unable to move on with their life. Their fear of moving on makes it more convenient for them to get back with you before they can muster up the courage to move on. Don’t take them back since they’re only using you.


They Are Stuck in the Memories

Some people have the weird habit of living in the past even after they have moved on with someone else. They remember the good times you shared and are open to coming back to create some more good memories.


Parents Can Also Play a Part

This is particularly true for men. If you’ve recently broken up with your boyfriend and he comes back claiming he has made a big mistake and wants to get back with you, he might just had the “What were you thinking?” conversation with the parents. Parents have a way of making their children see when they’ve made poor decisions.


They Just Miss the Sex

Why do exes always come back? Good sex has a way of bringing back an ex. If you often had explosive sex and did crazy things together, there is always the temptation of getting back together just for a romp in the sheets. There is also a possibility that your ex can’t land a good hookup and wants to get back with you to get his fix. At times he may have a new girlfriend but just wants to get back with you for the thrill.


Your Social Media Pictures Stir Their Interests

You have definitely chanced on the photo of someone you used to know or even date on Facebook or Instagram and thought they look way hotter than they used to back then. Your ex might just have seen your latest Instagram updates and thought they should call. This is definitely not genuine interest.


They’re Being Manipulative

Some people are just naturally manipulative. They want to exert an unhealthy amount of control over people in their life. After a relationship is over, your exes might get back with you since they feel they have lost the power over you which they once enjoyed. As crazy as this might sound, it actually does happen and you need to be on the lookout. This is especially so if your ex was very controlling while you were together.


It Can Be the Buyer’s Remorse

Remember when you bought something at one store and as you were walking home saw something better at the same price? Well, you can have that feeling in relationships too. If your ex left you and moved on with someone else, they might have started to compare the both of you and realized they had gotten the short end of the stick. They will definitely want to get back with you.


They Are Still In Love with You

Love has a power over us that cannot be explained. You can be fighting viciously at one point and completely in love the other. Emotions cannot be severed by breaking up. The breakup might have been caused by a heated argument and you both said and did things you shouldn’t have. If this is the case, your ex might try and get in touch with you after the dust has settled and these furious emotions cooled down.


​They’ve Changed

Why do exes always come back? The reality of living without you can make exes change their ways completely. They will come back, and show you they’ve changed and probably kicked some bad habits you don’t like such as drinking too much. If they are genuine and you really want them back, you can give it one more shot.


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