Sometimes it happens that relationships don’t end on a clean break. Or the two parties mature over a period of time and realize how childish they had been during their relationship. In either case, one or both partners might try to re-ignite the flames of their relationship with each other. And when you’re one of the parties involved, the question becomes: how do you know the difference between that, and your ex trying to be just a good friend to you? Now you’ve come to the right place.
11 Clear Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
He’s in regular touch with you
And of course, there’s nothing wrong with keeping up with what is happening in each other’s life and sharing funny pictures. But if he’s the one who is initiating most of the conversations, sustaining them and even staying up late just to chat with you, he may still be interested in you.
He shares his daily life with you…every day
Or at least, too often than normal for just friends to share each other’s normal lives with you. One of the most common tactics used is to complain about work (or friends) to you. And let’s be honest – a certain respectful distance is maintained when you are exes. And that includes not dumping your emotional problems on your ex.
Talking about the good old days
This is one of the clearest signs your ex wants you back. I mean, why else even rake up the past? It’s called the past for a reason, you know. By reminiscing about the good times you two shared with each other, he’s trying to stir positive emotions in your mind towards him, reminding you of how good you had it when the two of you were together. But keep in mind that deliberately bringing up the past is different from him being reminded of the past (because of something that happened to him in the present).
He still discusses your daily schedule
I mean, why? What does your daily life have to do with him? He’s not your boyfriend, and even if he were, you’re not obliged to give him an explanation of how you choose to live your life. It’s the same if he>
Plays the jealous card
Why should he be jealous of who you’re dating or hanging out with? Your personal life is none of his concern. And even if it were, being jealous of your relationships with other men is a sign of immaturity and insecurity.
Drunk dialing you
Girl, come on. This is one of the most obvious signs your ex wants you back and you don’t need us to tell you that. But I do mean the good kinda drunk calling where he goes all like “Babe I miss you so much” or “I was so stupid to breakup with you” or “Just thought I’d talk to you”. And not the bad kind that goes “I wasted 3 years of my life on you”.
Their purposeful texts
Sending texts like “Remember when we were at X together?” Or “Wish you were here” are nothing but his ways of making you miss him. Such behavior can also spill onto social media, where statuses like “I feel so lonely without you” or “Wish I could go back to the good old days” indicate heavily that he’s looking to get back together with you.
Discussing your breakup
If he’s not the kind of guy who gets drunks and calls you up, then he might be a more direct guy. But not too direct, in which case he would time and again bring up the reasons for your break up and say things like “Man, I wish I hadn’t behaved with you like that.” Or “Damn, I wish I could have handled things better”. Keep in mind that wanting to re-do the past is very different from placing the blame on you – in which case you should dump his sorry ass immediately.
You can see that he’s worked on himself
His attitude’s changed, he’s become calmer and more mature, and he’s learnt to truly respect you as an individual. This is of special importance if the reasons you broke up with him were his nasty personality, lack of respect for you, or his anger issues. Whatever problems you had with him, he’s made a conscious effort to work on them, and entered your life in order to show you the new him. This goes on to show that not only did he accept that he was the one who was wrong (and that the breakup happened because of his behavior) but that he regrets it and wishes to start on a new note with you.
Honestly, this is one of the most obvious signs your ex wants you back.
He’ll sometimes discuss his future
And coincidentally, this future is exactly like the one you told him you wanted to have, when you were in a relationship with him. This is his way of hinting at you that he’s finally ready to commit to you and have a future with you.
He’s in touch with your friends and family
Girl, come on. No man goes out of his way to build bonds with people if he doesn’t have to. Especially if those people are related to his ex. If he’s doing so, he’s simply trying to stay in their good books so that when he does decide to get back together with you, they can put in a good word for him.